While doing some internet search, i am totally amazed by this totally cool tips as firing off too many messages can kill a budding relationship.
This can be able to help you to step away from the cell and get a grip.
After your first few dates. It may be tempting to contact a guy after an amazing date, but resist the urge. "Reaching out lessens the thrill of the chase for him," says psychologist Diana Kirschner, Ph.D., author of Love in 90 Days.
My Say: I fell into that. In the past, i used to have a huge big big crush on this particular guy that everyday i will at least send him one message and i will be waiting eagerly for his reply. Even for a simple "hi" i will be happy. But now, i think that i am so dumb.What i have learn is not to let emotions control you, because the way i look in the past is ugly.
When you're drunk. Since phones don't come with Breathalyzers, it's up to you to stop yourself from sending a tipsy message — especially one that suggests you two meet up ASAP. "Being too available lets a guy know he has all the leverage," Krieger says.
My Say: Other than smsing, if i had alcohol, i will go high and wanted to chill crazy in the club that i do not want to go home. even for now, what i did to avoid this is simple. Avoid Alcohol.
When you're angry. It's annoying when a guy flakes, but sending a "Why haven't you called me?!" inquiry makes you look massively insecure. Avoid angry texts once you're in a relationship too. "When it's in writing, you can't easily take it back," Kirschner says. It's even smart to ban bitchy humor, which can sound meaner than it is.
My Say: I am totally guilty about this. Because most of the time, my boyfriend and i had some misunderstanding because i was very harsh on the way i wrote my messages. Got to change, girl.
When you're trying to be funny. "When relayed nonverbally, sarcasm and joking can come off as aggressive," according to Kirschner. A dude could read a message like "OMG, you were out of control last night" literally, which makes you sound pissed when you were actually just fondly remembering his funny behavior.
My Say: Well, for this, it depends on the personality of the person though. If he is very open minded and loves to joke, it doesnt matter at all.
When you've already texted him that day. Once you're in an ongoing relationship, you may be tempted to rely on texting as a regular form of communication, and there's nothing wrong with staying in touch that way sometimes. But electronic communication discourages phone conversations and one-on-one time. Also, guys like brief updates, not a blow-by-blow of your life.
My Say: I got nothing to comment about but it is true. Once i wanted to tell my boyfriend about some happenings, but i lose patience in typing. So i called him instead. Totally works!.
This is what i have found out:
"Overdoing it can freak guys out," says relationship expert Arlene Krieger, Ph.D. "They feel pressured into sending an instantaneous response."
I find this very interesting and wanted to share on this blog because i have realised that understand the guys can be a great advantage likewise during relationship or creating friendship like getting to know more guys. Even for me, i am trying my best to make sure that my boyfriend is comfortable with my actions.
Hope that you guys can be able to absorb some of this tips!
p/s: And yea, my smses to my boyfriend will fall drastically. XD I will call him then.
loves, Welna.
Please feel free to comment as i would like to know some of your thoughts about these. XD
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